Now, “losing oneself in a relationship” is a trite phrase thrown around ALL THE TIME by relationship coaches— myself included. The Root of Overthinking is a Low Self-Esteem I felt as if I was worthless and had nothing interesting to say. We also stand to lose ourselves in the relationship, rather than maintaining the unique qualities that gave us confidence and drew our partners to us in the first place. If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, then you may be losing yourself in your relationship. We will discuss the reasons that kill any relationship and make you lose confidence in your spouse. You lose confidence in yourself and trust in your partner. A relationship won't be considered healthy if you rely on that person entirely for all your wants and needs. The cost of confronting your limitations, of course, is your sense of confidence, the one quality we need to succeed and risk losing when we fail. But I’ve noticed that while people might talk about it, they don’t deal with it as it’s happening very often. 1) Do you find then when you are talking to other people that you always say WE instead of ME? This was a huge one for me. Marriage is considered stronger than romantic relationships, but the reasons for breaking of both are almost identical. You can also lose your identity through the gradual merging in a relationship. In contrast, older adults often lose these roles as they enter the later stages of life. You may love your spouse a lot, but any marriage or relation may fail for varied reasons. When I was ill, my confidence plummeted. Most importantly, it makes you deadlocked. Understanding how to restore confidence when it dips is an essential skill, and it depends on three core components: attitude, knowledge and experience. Confidence is a fragile thing, and a big loss can cause you to lose it for days, weeks, or even months. It robs you of your personality, robs you of your confidence and robs you of your identity. Just don’t lose that confidence now that you’re in a relationship. I did not see the point to anything and felt as if I just existed. Because that’ll be the end of it just as quick as it started. This may happen at any time. Confidence is even MORE important when you’re actually in a relationship. It’s a lot easier to lose yourself in a relationship if you aren’t self-aware to begin with. Anxiety and Loss of Confidence By Paul David. Everything that makes relationships work is no more. The best way to regain confidence is to remind yourself of your capabilities, address the obstacles that keep you from feeling confident, and work around those obstacles. Such loss of identity can result in increased levels of generalised anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, a loss of self-confidence, social anxiety, isolation, chronic loneliness, all of which threaten our ability to connect with other people. 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